The woman wants her to be a bridesmaid from her best friend, 1 life -changing situation
For Hailey Welch, being a bridesmaid for best friend was not just an honor – carried a kilometer on the recovery journey.
At Tiktok videoWelch shared how his best friend Brighton made a definite request before his wedding: “Ten months ago, my best friend told me ‘I love you, but I can’t do you as long as you don’t get rid of eating disorder.” “At that moment changed everything. 24 -year -old Welch spoke Newsweek About how this year’s biggest challenge: Healing.
Welch said he’s been fighting with Bulimia since he was 18 years old.
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“In that case, [Brighton] He had just had an aim and invited him to Dallas for a little celebration, dedi he said.
During this visit, the war with Welch’s eating disorder became painful.
“If I went into the toilet, nobody thought you wouldn’t hear me. I tried to clean my dinner, but it was just outside the door? My best friend Brighton and my girlfriend Elena. They heard everything.”
He remembered his confused reactions. After trying to explain himself and promising that he would never do it again, Brighton cut him: “That’s when I am very sorry, Hailey, but I will not do you as long as you don’t stop doing it yourself.”
At that moment it was a turning point for Welch. “I knew he was dead,” he said. I didn’t say anything, because I already knew how to disappoint everyone in my heart. “
A long way for healing
Welch’s journey was not easy. He still describes himself as “active recovery” and admitted that he fights with the same difficult thoughts every day. Nevertheless, the hardest part passed.
“The first few months was incredibly challenging,” he said. “Every meal made me feel physically sick, I had intense night sweats and I started to see the money the disease received in my body.” One of the biggest challenges was weight gain. He continued: “He still felt like doing this in an irregular mentality, living in constant fighting or flight mode.”
According to the food disorder specialist and social worker, Rachel Goldberg in Los Angeles is complex and varies from person to person.
“Bulimia nervoza, someone in a short time with a sense of lack of control and a lot of food, and then joins some kind of compensatory behavior. Usually vomiting, but excessive exercise or laxative use,” Goldberg said Goldberg Newsweek. “Bulimia tends to be cyclical that it starts with restriction, which returns to unidentified eating and then to compensation and restriction.”
He stressed that healing was not a single decision or a transition.
“It is important to understand that most people can do with a decision or cold turkey,” he said. “They may feel like a failure if they expect a correction instantly. It is best to think of healing as a journey rather than a key.”
For Welch, the first days of recovery were exhausting, but slowly takes control back. The body found joy in dinner, even to start a small holiday cookie business by following positive impressives and eliminating the toxic social media content.
During his journey, Welch gives credit to his girlfriend because it is unchanging support system.
“He constantly reminded me how proud he was from me. Italy and last summer, when I visited, showed me the beauty of the food in a way that I have never seen before.” He said. “I learned to love to eat again from Pizza and Pacarn Risotto, Gelato, Espresso, Wine and bread – and I fell even more in love with my girlfriend while doing this.”
A moment victory
When Welch finally got the moment he was working, he’s eight months before he recovered: Brighton’s offer to bridesmaid.
“Only a week ago, my best friend gave me the sweetest offer-a double silk bow print pajamas, a bottle of wine, a lip mask and a note that wants me to stand with.” He said. The moment meant everything.
“At that moment is still one of the most proud moments of my life,” he added.
His story is a proof of the importance of support and accountability in healing, and Welch is determined to share his recovery journey with others who discuss the first step.
Orum I want people who read my story to know that healing is not a straight line, ”he said. “Scattered, challenging and taking time …” Do not stop tattooing, because no subtle heart palpitations, hospital visits, rotten teeth, hair loss, feeling of weakness, continuous cold or patient feeling in your stomach. It’s not worth it … One day to start healing today. You are worth fighting. “
